International Association Wellness Professionals
Three steps to becoming a more empowered coach
Do you find yourself doing most of the talking in your conversations with others? Whether it’s with clients or friends, usually there is one person who is the “talker” and the other who is the listener. Neither role is necessarily good or bad, but knowing which one you tend to be can make you more aware of the other and improve your communication skills.
If you work with clients or hope to some day, you might find that you do most of the talking. After all, you’re supposed to be the expert, right? Shouldn’t you be dishing out the advice and leading your sessions so you client can reach his/her goal as quickly as possible? Believe it or not, the less talking you do, the better coach you will become.
Most coaches and practitioners want to share their knowledge with their clients, and when session time is limited, you may feel there’s a lot to say in order to help your client.
But one of the biggest mistakes coaches make is that they talk too much and don’t listen enough. This can happen if you feel nervous about lulls in conversation or are apprehensive that your client may ask you something you don’t know the answer to. Or it can just be because you don’t realize it.
The problem is this: if you do most of the talking, likely you’re leading your client to answers that may or may not be the right fit for them. This can lead to results that might only work for them for awhile. Have you ever noticed how people have a hard time sustaining the changes they try to make? One reason is that they did not arrive at the solution themselves.